What Do I Do If My Partner Doesn’t Support My Pregnancy?

What Do I Do If My Partner Doesn’t Support My Pregnancy?

Take Time To Process Your Feelings

Not every partner might support your unplanned pregnancy. While some may be excited, there are others who are worried about money, timing, or just feel overwhelmed. If your partner doesn’t support the pregnancy, you might be trying to figure out what to do next. Help is available, no matter how you and your partner feel about the pregnancy.

If you’re feeling alone, scared, or unsure about what to do next, you are not the only one. Many women have been in the same situation as you and found support.

Don’t feel as though you need to make a decision right away. It’s normal to feel stressed, worried, or disappointed about your partner’s reaction. Give yourself time before making any big decisions. Understanding your own feelings will help you figure out what next steps to take. At Alpha Women’s Center, we would love to meet with you to talk through your options.

Avoid Making Decisions to Please Others

Some women are pressured into a decision by their partner and regret what they did afterwards. One woman faced this exact situation. “When I found out I was pregnant, my partner made it clear to me that he wasn’t ready to be a dad. To keep my boyfriend, I got rid of my baby. Ironically, our relationship is ruined anyway. I can’t look at him in the same way . . .” (Erin from BabyCentre).

Talk to Someone You Trust

If your partner doesn’t support your pregnancy, try talking with a trusted family member, friend, or pregnancy support staff. They can offer support, encouragement, and help you sort through your feelings.

Alpha Women’s Center is a great place that would love to help you understand your options. A recent client said that she “felt comfortable and free to make choices.”

There are people you can talk to about your pregnancy and any fears you might have about the future. Alpha Women’s Center is a welcoming place, even if you come alone. Many women have gone through this by themselves, and we understand how difficult that can be.

How Do Some Partners React?

You may be wondering about how your partner might react if you tell them you’ve decided to keep the pregnancy. One man said, “When I found out my girlfriend was pregnant, I really didn’t want her to go through with the pregnancy. All I could think about was what we’d be giving up. It wasn’t until I felt my baby kick for the first time that I realized we’d be gaining so much, too! I’m so pleased she didn’t listen to me, and love my little family to bits” (Tom from BabyCentre).

Partners can react in different ways to the news of a pregnancy, and feelings can change over time. However, this isn’t always the case. Alpha Women’s Center is here to support you no matter how your partner reacts.

Where to Find Support

Even if your partner doesn’t support you, you don’t have to go through this alone. Our team is here to answer your questions, talk through your options, and support you along the way. We offer free, limited OB ultrasounds and a caring place to talk.

You don’t have to decide right away. We at Alpha Women’s Center can help with encouragement, information, and resources. If you choose adoption or parenting, we’re glad to offer practical help and support every step of the way during your pregnancy and beyond.

Feel free to call (515) 285-5700 (Des Moines), (515) 965-7885 (Ankeny), or visit our website, Alpha Women’s Center, for more information.

References

I want this baby but my partner doesn’t: parents’ tips, Loran Marsh, BabyCentre, Accessed May 29, 2026.

Men Play Significant Role in Decisions Surrounding Unplanned Pregnancies, Lifeway Research | American Views, Jan 21, 2022.